Finding Our Way to True Belonging →

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Brené Brown, writes:

There’s much more to true belonging. Being ourselves means sometimes having to find the courage to stand alone, totally alone. It’s not something we achieve or accomplish with others; it’s something we carry in our heart. Once we belong thoroughly to ourselves and believe thoroughly in ourselves, true belonging is ours.

Another great piece on TED.com’s Ideas blog.

This seems counter-intuitive, but also makes a lot of sense. I’m fascinated by the idea that instead of transcending suffering, we must instead, move towards turbulence and doubt – what Pema Chödrön calls the journey of the warrior-bhodisattva 1.


  1. Pema Chödrön, Comfortable with Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion (Boulder:Shambhala 2003), 1. 

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The Culture Cliché →

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Claire Lew, writing for Signal v. Noise:

Yet for as much we seem to talk about it, do we really know what culture is?

If we want to influence our company culture, we have to start with a keen understanding of what culture actually is.

This article cuts to the core of why attempts to influence and change cultures are often ineffective.

This has been a recent challenge for me. Convincing leaders that changing a culture is not about just changing the artefacts is hard. It’s difficult for people to go deeper to surface their underlying assumptions. It’s even more difficult to ask them to examine their resulting behaviours.

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Conversational Narcissism →

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Celeste Headlee on TED.com’s Ideas blog:

Often subtle and unconscious, it’s the desire to take over a conversation, to do most of the talking, and to turn the focus of the exchange to yourself.

Fascinating read. The bias towards talking about ourselves and the urge to steer conversations towards us is an unconscious and unsuccessful attempt at empathy. I’m guilty as charged and will make a concerted effort to be more conscious of this.

I also really enjoyed Celeste’s insightful talk: 10 Ways to Have Better Conversations.

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Work And The Loneliness Epidemic →

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Vivek H. Murthy, writing for the Harvard Business Review:

Our understanding of biology, psychology, and the workplace calls for companies to make fostering social connections a strategic priority. A more connected workforce is more likely to enjoy greater fulfillment, productivity, and engagement while being more protected against illness, disability, and burnout.

Some sobering statistics relating to the ‘loneliness epidemic’, and an impassioned plea for companies to do more to foster and cultivate social connections.

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A Letter to the Misfit →

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Hannah du Plessis:

As difficult as it is to be unseen and unheard because of your difference, there is a greater danger, a greater difficulty. You may begin to question your own worth, to believe that you are somehow deficient. This is an easy conclusion to come to. “If I am repeatedly disrespected, then maybe I am not worthy of respect.”

A heartfelt and reaffirming message.

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